Holidays do not have to be perfect or just like last year.
As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold onto, and be open to creating new ones. While the holidays are advertised as the season of loving and giving, too often they're experienced as oppressive.
This is not to say that the holiday season can't be great fun, but its quality depends on how realistic you are and how well you take care of yourself.